Later this week, a documentary called Sensitive: The Untold Story will premiere at the Legion of Honor in San Francisco. Unfortunately, it is sold out.
But you can still order the DVD.
I’m excited, because I consider myself a highly sensitive person, or HSP, and I like seeing this trait being presented in a strong, beautiful and credible way.
And I’m nervous, because although I’ve seen some clips and I have full confidence in the talented directors of this film, I won’t see the movie myself until September 10, 2015.
I have so many wonderings. How will this affect me? Will I learn something I don’t want to know? Will there be part of myself I don’t want others to know?
How will the other 80% of the population respond?
So I began to list the ways I hope those of you without this trait will respond to this film.
Following that, I list the ways I hope you won’t respond.
Here’s how I hope you’ll respond.
I hope you’ll see that this is a legitimate genetic trait, the same way you see that my height, green eyes or dark hair are genetic traits. I inherited it from someone good!
I hope you’ll value my strengths of depth, empathy, intuition, and conscientiousness.
I hope the next time I declare a need for rest or time alone, or when I go into simplicity mode to reduce overwhelm, you’ll see it as a strong, positive choice. It’s not a rejection, a selfishness, or an illness. I do it so I can be a better person, and you’ll benefit from that, too.
I hope you’ll see me as an individual, and not only as an HSP.
I hope to continue to participate in the world as I am.
Here’s how I hope you won’t respond.
I hope you won’t change your life to fit me. Differences are good, and I like you best just as you are!
I hope you won’t try to fix me to be more like you.
I hope you won’t treat this trait as a disorder or a character defect.
I hope you won’t see me as needy. No special treatment (please!). I know what I need and I know how to take care of myself.
I hope you won’t think I’m nicer than you are. In this sense, “sensitive” doesn’t mean “nice.” It’s true, I don’t like conflict, but nice is a different characteristic, and you’re nice in your own ways, in some ways, maybe even nicer.
Finally, I hope you won’t make a big deal of me. I highly dislike big deals made out of me. This is not a big deal – it’s simply the skin I live in every day.
And those are my thoughts. If you have any thoughts of your own about this trait, the movie, or your own life, I invite you to comment!